Just a comment, if you "i even paied someone for sending out 1,000,000,000 emails with zero results"

What is it that your site is ?? (you can pm me the url)

People think that a site needs to have a million members for others to join, and this is NOT the case, as long as your site delivers a clear message for what it is, and makes it easy for your members to access and get to what it is that is being offered then you will have customers.

Just think about the restaurant you goto see more that has 1 million items on the menu, it distracts you, but In-n-Out is an example, simple, to the point, and they have many customers.

Cheers,
(dx)