I agree with you on the video embedding ...I have been working with rayz on his video embedding mod and he has made a good mod even though it's still a bit buggy and could use some need tweaks dealing with certain programmers can be a bit frustrating his mod does allow for custom coding to be added along with a custom image for that video ....using URL's I recommended allowing members to just be able to upload their own image from their hard drives which would make the users ease of use faster. see more the bugs come in that the embedded videos using the custom embedding don't show up on Google browsers as well as a few others.....would be nice if he would address that and or Boonex incorporate his idea into the next version!

one more thing that i would love to see handled is alertpay added to the payment gateways....I purchased a mod which handles the subscriptions but falls short of letting members buy or sell goods in the store...and sense I run an Adult community Alertpay is the Adult friendly gateway on the block...which does not charge $700 to use and take visa payments....as for the bells and stuff one of the new kids on the block with a large growing base of users is myyearbook.com which has lots and lots of things for its users to do and to discover keeping them on the site longer for them to take in offers from advertisers....so more bells and things needed

a much needed built in banner advertiser and affiliate mod these things help grow a pay site by rewarding active members who promote the site.
as for video chats yes they are the thing most people who are on dating site want to know that that girl they have been courting is in fact a girl and not a 400 lbs couch bum who has a funny kink.....lol and they also add a hint of safety and fun.

but then again just my take on things......:)