I gave up and switched to phpfox. The time wasted waiting for boonex video license (which I have not yet received is totally unacceptable. PhpFox works great with a great admin panel. No video chat though. I am going to try and get PHPFox to integrate Userplane video chat (it's free) and then it will be the best social script on available.

For those that have taken the time to read this blog here is what I recommend:

For dating - http://www.datingscripts.co.uk/

For Social networking: http://phpfox.com

I see more have tried all the scripts and these are the best value.