Good luck getting on the first page. This is very tough. If you have common keywords that everyone else is using such as dating, networking, friends, etc...etc... You're not going to make it to the first page when there are millions of other sites using the same keywords, many of which are probably more popular.

If you don't have a google account get one, especially this one:
https://www.google.com/webmasters/tools/

Here with this google account you can find out many useful things about your see more site. Links coming in going out. Your robots.txt file, what google sees, some misc problems, etc.

There is a section in the account for creating a sitemap.xml file. This is a special file you can create that will help google find your links. There are many autogenerators out there that will scan your site and give you a downloadable sitemap.xml to upload to your main directory. This file helps google find all your pages and hopefully index them.

It wont give you a better search result/ranking or anything, but at least it helps google find all your pages, and it will let you know that it has.

If you want to see how many and what pages google actually has indexed for you in the google search box enter:
site:yourdomain.com
or
site:www.yourdomain.com

Try them both because google has a habit of saying these are 2 separate sites/domains or something or other.

Through your domain name out there when you can without going to crazy or overwhelming. If you belong to other fourms that have the signature option in your account add your domain in your signature.

There are some places you can pay for improved rankings, and optimization and such, I honestly never went this route as I was affraid I would be just giving my money away.

I do have google adsense account too. I created a search box adsense feature and I can't say for sure, but it almost seemed like google came along and visited my pages much faster and more often. It could be related to the actual ads, but I figured heck it sure wouldn't hurt any.