Dolphin membership setting isnt really good for dating sites and community.There isnt much way for sites to make money.Actually gold member should be able to im standard members and standard member cannot im other standards members .Standard members mail send should not contain yahoo, msn or other instant messenger id or emails from other site.Nobody would want to join a site to pay to play music or video or use chat when they can get it free and better widgets for those.So boonex team standard thinking see more before programing.